Lotta straw-feminisming going on in my online discussions lately.
"SO I SUPPOSE UR GONNA TELL ME TO GO EDUCATE MYSELF NOW"
"SO I GUESS U JUST THINK...
tbh i can totally understand why mccoy fans would be pissed he’s not getting as much screentime in the reboot, but if you’re going to complain about...
"Augustus is soooo pretentious!!!"
Ohmygod, no way?? It’s almost as if that’s exactly what...
I don’t think the comment “bisexuals have straight privilege unless they’re in lesbian relationships” makes any more sense than saying “lesbians have straight privilege while they’re single”. This makes the assumption that all bisexuals who are single or in opposite-sex relationships actively hide their sexual orientation.
If a gay woman keeps her sexual identity secret while she’s single in order to avoid discrimination, we don’t accuse her of co-opting straight privilege – we sympathize with her for feeling the need to closet herself. So why the double standard for bisexuals?
It might not apply to you, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t straight-looking femme lesbians, or androgynous-looking, rainbow-wearing, alternative-haircut-having bisexuals. My point is that that comment oversimplifies and overgeneralizes things in a way that seems unreasonable to me.
"This makes the assumption that all bisexuals who are single or in opposite-sex relationships actively hide their sexual orientation."
It also makes the assumption that closeted people aren’t on the receiving end of oppression, in direct contradiction to empirical data that have shown larger rates of stress in the closeted population. I mean, really? Straight people don’t have to hide in the closet, how the fuck is being closeted straight privilege? This kind of argument is just a way of rationalizing monosexism.
bisexual invisibility isn’t new. you see, we’ve always had the power.
every unsolved high stakes art robbery? bisexuals.
crop circles? bisexuals with mowers.
poltergeists? nope just rowdy bisexuals
Roanoke colony? bisexuals probably.
ALERT ALERT! We’ve been made! Hide the booty!
we’ll be fine they’ll never find us in our invisible lair
Mark Simpson has written a great essay on why male bisexuality is taboo, while female bisexuality is considered erotic.
Here is an excerpt:
"Straight women now have something to gain and little to lose by admitting an interest in other women. Rather than exile them to the acrylic mines of Planet Lesbo, it makes them more interesting, more adventurous, more modern… just more.
"For the most part, however, straight men still have nothing to gain and everything to lose by making a similar admission. It renders them considerably… less. Unlike women, men’s gender is immediately suspect if they express an interest in the same sex. What’s more, any male homosexuality still tends to be seen as an expression of impotence with women. In other words: men’s attraction to men is equivalent to and probably a product of emasculation.
"A straight man admitting that he finds masculinity desirable – as so many clearly, thrillingly do – threatens to cost him the very thing he values most: not only his own manhood and his potency, his reputation with the ladies, but his lads-together homosocial intimacy with other men. It’s a nasty, vicious, bitchy trick to play on millions of red-blooded men, but this is what passes for common sense in the modern, Anglo-Saxon world."
In other words: This is an area where the sexism of society punishes men harder much than women.
We see the same in the transgender arena: People are in general are more tolerant of women expressing male interests and expressions than of men embracing traditional feminine interests, clothing or sexual preferences.
okay “this is an area where the sexism of society punishes men much harder than women” is one of the most fucked up things i’ve seen in a while, and i just rewatched arielle’s bisexual vs. pansexual video for an ask, so that’s saying something.
the fetishization of bisexual women does not in any way help women out. okay, yeah, maybe in theory people think of bisexuality in women as “modern” or whatever, but in practice? it’s fucking open season on bi women because our very identity is seen as consent, a green light for whatever horny straight men want. nearly fifty percent of bi women are rape survivors—that would include me btw—and i would be a whole lot fucking happier if my bisexuality meant that straight men wouldn’t date me, as opposed to making them think it’s perfectly fine to violate me.
i’m all for talking about how the heteronormative ideals negatively affect bi men, btw, because i get that they totally do. but i am not okay with anyone, especially men, saying that people finding women’s bisexuality “erotic” is in any way positive for women because it is so fucking not. and i am REALLY not fucking okay with an article like this, which is basically celebrating the fucking sexualization and victimization of bi women, being posted in the bi tags without so much as a trigger warning.
repeat after me, people: fetishization is not acceptance.
I saw this poster at a queer bar in Paris and it made me really happy. (Sorry for the shitty quality, it hangs high up on the wall and the lighting there is not the best). Basically, the person in the front (not sure who it is) says “Bisexuals don’t exist” and Batman is like, ”Shut your mouth” and slaps them. So yeah, this made me really happy, I thought I’d share.
OMG how awesome that a queer bar would have this!
The statistics on the poor health of bisexuals are astounding. Its counter intuitive because we tend to see bisexuals as diluted versions of gay people.
We see bisexuals as diluted versions of gay people, so not only do we not think that their problems would be as bad, but that very thought process is what causes bisexuals to experience problems in greater numbers than gay people in the first place.
ANNE FRANK WAS BI
HOW DID NO ONE EVER TELL ME THIS
I FEEL FUCKING ROBBED
this fills me with both intense joy at learning a cool new thing and intense anger at not having learned cool new thing before