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Dissecting a character to fit a heteronormative box is sloppy and irresponsible. Bisexuals deserve to be represented in media too — not erased or straight-washed. If NBC can’t handle portraying a bisexual male character, then perhaps the network shouldn’t take on John Constantine.

Sexuality is always a part of a character — however minimal — but some sort of romantic or sexual relationship is usually a significant plot point in superhero stories. A bisexual male superhero would disrupt the hetero male template of, “hero saves damsel in distress” that we see consistently in iconic stories like Superman, Spiderman, and Captain America. But it’s 2014, and sometimes men need saving too.

There’s something particularly elusive about bisexual male characters. There is a deeply ingrained misconception that a man can’t be romantically involved with another man and still be interested in women as well. It’s centered on the idea that masculinity requires a wanting, and “getting” of women, and not men. But the depiction of Constantine in Hellblazer proves that is a false assumption.

NBC’s Straight-Washing of John Constantine is Bi Erasure | Eliel Cruz for the Advocate Magazine (via gaywrites)

It’s bad enough networks don’t create bisexual characters let alone when they "straightwash" an existing one from (30 years!) canon. Make your voice heard!

  1. Sign the Petition then signal boost it to your friends on Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter, and anything else you can think of
  2. Tweet using the hashtag #BiBlazer (A combination of Bisexual and Hellblazer) to stop the bi erasure of a canon bisexual character. Direct your tweets to @JohnConWriters and @NBCConstantine.

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Writing off the word bisexual as exclusionary means cutting ties with bisexuals who were romantically and sexually involved with people of more than two genders decades before we were even born, and whom were forced to struggle and fight for recognition, only to now be othered as oppressors who aren’t “queer enough” for young gays, lesbians, and pansexuals.

Part of a Very Long History of hetero (& homo) normative cisgender monosexuals ignoring anything actual bisexual people had to say for and about themselves, inventing amazingly screwy definitions and creating new terms (i.e. ambisexual in 1912, omnisexual in 1959, pansexual in 1917, etc., etc., etc.) that they then imposed on bisexual people no matter what we said.

The question is, do they think that by slicing, dicing and redefining us, bisexuals will actually go away forever?

Or are we just supposed to get confused & discouraged and go away long enough for them to use our statistics and numbers while they scoop up all the grant funding, jobs, tenured teaching positions, groups and programs and other goodies?

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Schooled  Larry King.

Watch the full interview here.

So to be bisexual do we have to be fucking both sexes at once?! Seriously?! All the time? That would be exhausting!!

Shut that shit down, Anna.

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*points to favorite character* bisexual

*fandom crying loudly* no…stop……theyre not….they either homogay or heterostraight…..please don’t….

*points to favorite character again* love that bisexual

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I can’t fucking stand it when people say stuff like “oh every 13 year old think they’re bi” because:

I didn’t.

I didn’t let myself DARE think it.

I was TERRIFIED to find myself attracted to multiple genders…

because biphobic assholes kept insisting bi wasn’t real and I thought something was horribly wrong with me.

(via agenderscott)

  • gay & lesbian monosexuals: um no bi people cannot ID additionally as gay/lesbian you are appropriating gay and lesbian culture
  • gay & lesbian monosexuals: *calls two bisexuals being in a same-gender relationship a gay/lesbian relationship*


Heterosexual character who develops feelings for someone of the same sex; “I’m not gay! Am I? Oh but I love this person. Well, turns out I’m gay!”




Just erase every other sexuality 

Here’s an idea

Maybe they’re bisexual!

Maybe they’re pansexual!

Maybe they’re heterosexual, but this person is an exception!

Maybe they don’t know what the fuck they are and don’t really care!

Maybe people don’t just suddenly become gay because of one person

Maybe gay isn’t the only alternative sexuality out there

Maybe media starts to realise this

(via jcatgrl)

  • Bisexual person in a relationship with someone of a different sex: I'm not straight, I'm bisexual
  • Gay community: you're only saying that because you want to be a part of the Gay Club, you don't belong with us, you're basically just a straight person anyway
  • Bisexual person in a relationship with someone of the same sex: I'm not gay I'm bisexual
  • Gay community: why do you feel the need to clarify that? You just want to be one of the straight people, you just want to reassure them that you're Not That Gay, you don't belong with us
Asker Anonymous Asks:
If you want more bisexual representation, what media are you creating with more representation. Are you writing a novel, movie, video game, whatever? Or are you just complaining that other people aren't giving you what you want.
bemusedlybespectacled bemusedlybespectacled Said:



First of all, this question is awful. It’s classist and rude. Not everyone can afford to have their queer work distributed, because in the entertainment industry you often have to have an in, and to have an in you have to have money. 

Secondly, I am a college student. I’m studying creative writing, so yes, I do create queer characters and include them in my work. I certainly can’t afford to self-publish, and there is not much of a market for bisexual media, due to biphobia. I hope that one day I can have work published and widely read, or maybe even work as a script writer. But right now I’m a student. Guess what? I still deserve to have representation.

And it’s not a simple matter of “getting what we want,” for oppressed groups it’s a very serious issue, because we have poor mental health, and it doesn’t help to have poor representation. So you can fuck off with your tone, thanks.


oh yes i’ll just go commission bisexual characters on a bunch of tv shows i am the head of, and publish a million books with queers in them via the numerous publishing houses i own, and i’ll just create movies with all the funding and contacts i have in the industry. better yet, i’ll do it all my magic because i’m a fucking wizard

Can we start using this argument on everyone else?

"You don’t want a black Human Torch? Why don’t you make and cast your OWN Human Torch?"

"You don’t want a female Thor? Why don’t you write your OWN comic book series with a male Thor?" 





so if a bisexual dates someone of another gender, they’re really straight and looking for attention

and if a bisexual dates someone of the same gender, they’re really gay and calling themself bi out of internalized homophobia

and if a bisexual is polyamorous, they’re the reason bisexuals “can’t be trusted”

and single bisexuals are predatory liars

what the fuck are we supposed to do

dance fiercely to Queen songs and tell everyone who says bisexuality isn’t real to go fuck themselves

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Ah yes all that sweet sweet bisexual privilege.

Like having more psychologists attribute your mental health to your indecisiveness.

or doctors not believing when you’ve become sexually active

or the government believing your ~~**straight marriage**~~ to be tax fraud

or having the biggest demographic in the LGBT community next to the trans community be homeless and suicidal

and then having nasty little monosexual queers dictate your own identity to you like you’re the fucking problem.

because that doesn’t add up to an entire life spent doubting your own identity so badly you can no longer, not even for a second, trust your own attractions romantic or sexual or otherwise.

until you feel so fucking messed up inside you think you’re lying to yourself and you have no way to validate who you are or how you perceive others. 

because you’re straight enough

you’re not straight enough

you’re queer enough

you’re not queer enough

you’re nothing

you’re greedy

you’re lying you just want attention

so much privilege

look at it all

(via nonbinaryanders)


Arguing on the basis of roots is problematic because roots have a meaning derived from the history and politics of actual use. For example, we don’t interpret “transsexual” to mean “sexual attraction toward people sitting across from me” even though the root “trans” in Latin is used predominantly as a spacial adjective or adverb. The pairing of a spacial adjective with a linguistic noun to describe gender in ways that were quite binary until the last few decades is a social construction.

Similarly, the history and politics of “bisexual” starts with Krafft-Ebing borrowing the term from botany and zoology to describe people who were not exclusively heterosexual or homosexual. Arguably he and other early psychologists including Freud are responsible for constructing heterosexuality as well. Gender deviance and homosexuality were widely considered to go hand-in-hand under those theories, and still are outside of America. So there’s a fairly rich and complex history of trans people and nonbinary people within gay and lesbian communities until quite recently. If we’re going to discard bisexual as tainted by the theoretical assumptions of prior generations who imposed the term on us, we should reject the entire kit and kaboodle, including the Freudian relic of “pansexual.”

The 80s and 90s saw the emergence of a bisexual movement which considered autobiography and autoethnography to be more important than either the theoretical approaches of people like Kinsey and Klein or linguistic roots. And what we found is that people identified as bisexual were not necessarily binary either in gender or sexuality. Central to this conflict is what I consider to be a fundamental principle of queer theory, that abstract theory derivative of heterosexist science is less important than politics, history, and most importantly, the voices of diverse queer people. The entire point was to deconstruct the idea that human sexuality can be classified into sheep and goats based on largely theoretical dividing lines like the number of genders.

The idea that complex histories, attractions, and relationships should be reduced to single words for the sake of convenience has less to do with communicating those concepts than with constructing political shibboleths. If you want to understand my sexuality, gender, relationships, and politics you need to 1) buy me a cup of coffe, 2) ask, and 3) be prepared to listen for a good half-hour, because I don’t speak in label, I speak in complete paragraphs. I have a button that’s older than many people participating in this discussion that reads “don’t assume I’m attracted to you/don’t assume I’m not.”

Bisexuality is inclusive of nonbinary gender and sexuality because we as bisexual people said so in describing our own lives, ideals, and experiences. We have done so repeatedly, consistently, and firmly over the last 25 years. So the question needs to be asked as to why Victorian and Edwardian shrinks are more authoritative in defining bisexuality than bisexual people.

And on the other hand, I’m bisexual because I am identified as bisexual by a biphobic culture. Playing hokey pokey with language doesn’t change that, and until you erase anti-bisexual prejudice, I will insist on using “bisexual” as an adjective to describe my relationship with those forms of oppression.

(via agenderscott)


obviously not all monosexual privilege is the same, hets take the cake of having both heterosexual privilege and monosexual privilege. but non-monosexual queer/bi/pan folks have every right to name our oppression that exists within queer power dynamics. that oppression includes being erased from both within our community and outside our community. 

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the word ‘bisexuality’ is a taboo

it isn’t said on tv. orange is the new black, for example, features a bisexual protagonist who points out the biphobia at one point in assuming she can’t be attracted to multiple genders, but no one Ever says the word and she is ignored and referred to as a straight girl or a lesbian depending on the situation

other bisexual characters later turn out to have been Really Monosexual All Along. or are attractive, promiscuous women with commitment issues

this isn’t a coincidence.

people who are attracted to multiple genders, when asked about it, often describe themselves as “Fluid”. “I’d rather not label it.” “I don’t need to define it.” “It’s just whatever.” as if people are afraid of even implying the b word

this isn’t a coincidence.

the word ‘bisexual’ gets you different reactions in different places. straight people think you’re either faking for attention or a deviant. straight men are afraid of bi men and think bi women are just particularly promiscuous straight girls who want to have threesomes with them

gay men accuse bi men of being in the closet. lesbians accuse bi women of being straight girls going through a phase. and the ones who don’t do either of these things still often assume bisexuals are promiscuous, indecisive, and can’t settle down.

the theme throughout is that bisexually is illegitimate, deceptive, and always a front for something else.

this isn’t a coincidence

people are constantly encouraged to ‘settle down’, to ‘just pick one’, to ‘not be greedy’. abandon bisexuality. you’re really gay. you’re really straight. you’re too young. how can you know you’re bisexual at 16? 18? 20? 25?

this isn’t a coincidence

the word ‘bisexuality’ is constantly, persistently manipulated, by people who aren’t bisexual at all. the meaning twisted on shallow rationale. accused of being transphobic, or of being exclusionary. this has been happening for over 20 years now despite the existence of outspoken trans and/or non-binary bisexuals. whatever they can do to make you not say the word. pick a different one.

this isn’t a coincidence

bisexual people - whether implied or literally, deliberately saying they are bisexual using the word - are constantly rewritten as gay or as straight. gay icon. he was never interested in men. bi actor comes out? headlines say ‘came out as gay’, or articles outright ignore it

it’s never, ever a coincidence. bi erasure is a constant, ongoing thing.

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bihet? must be a nifty new way of referring to a pair of heterosexuals.

because i know you wouldn’t flippantly invalidate the identities of a large swath of the queer community by calling them straight.

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