d’you think the avengers ever play a game where they try to push steve’s buttons and get him all riled up and patriotic?
No writer, showrunner or producer ever (via hatteress)
I think the worst, most damaging part about this is the fact that after awhile you start to think it, too.
"Oh, right, yea I suppose it would be weird to have them be queer now”
"where would that fall in the canon at this point”
And it’s not until this kind of comparison is made that you really start to see the stupidity of it. It’s appalling, and especially so when you look at movies and shows with queer characters and see them automatically lumped beneath the label “gay and lesbian films” as though any media with more than a single queer character must be about queer characters.
My sexuality isn’t a genre, I don’t introduce myself to people as queer, it’s just a facet of my identity but it’s not the defining feature.
As though you can’t have a character be queer unless you’ve established their queerness from day one, like sexuality isn’t something that is messy and ever evolving.
Because, it would be unrealistic to suddenly have this character come to terms with their sexuality, embrace it, or leap into it like it’s not a big deal. Because it would be unrealistic, we’re too busy with the plot of werewolves and kanimas, of angels and demons.
It would be unrealistic.
No. At least own up to it. Own up to the fact that you don’t want to make your characters queer because it would be too complicated. It would be too difficult for you to write it because you’re too far up your own heteronormative sexist ass that you couldn’t even begin to crawl your way out.
Own up to the fact that you don’t know how to write it, and that most of all you aren’t willing.
You aren’t willing to look your audience in the face and say, “we need you for the ratings, but we don’t value you enough to validate your worth.”
Because that’s what it boils down to.
And I for one, am done.
Martin and Kazyak - “Hetero-Romantic Love and Heterosexiness in Children’s G-Rated Films” (via socialjusticetoddler)
Let’s talk about heteronormativity in sex education for a second. Because many sex education classes practice heteronormativity they don’t take the time to address sexual and relationship issues that specifically impact QUILTBAG+ individuals (cisnormativity is also a big part of this).
This means that we have a whole bunch of people growing up thinking lesbians can’t get STIs. That’s a huge myth I’ve encountered a lot and even seen portrayed in the media. We aren’t taught about dental dams because they are usually used by two DFAB partners, even though they should be used with any couple type. We aren’t taught about internal condoms being used with anal sex because this is mostly seen in the queer community. We aren’t taught about the social impact of HIV stigma in queer communities. We aren’t taught about the resources available for same gender couples that involve abuse. We aren’t taught that some of the resources available to straight couples aren’t open or accepting of other couples. We aren’t taught that these feelings of attraction (or lack of attraction) are normal. A lot of oppression and bigotry is created because of lack of education. If we were educating about QUILTBAG+ people within sex education there would be less misinformation and stigma. If we taught about intersex development there would be not only less stigma towards them but it would also be a great segue into how sex isn’t a binary and gender isn’t a binary as well as other sexual conditions that get left out.
I’m sure there are even more issues I’m leaving out, but the point is we should be making sex education classes, hell all classes with both heteronormativity, cisnormativity, and dyadicnormativity (erasure of intersex individuals) in mind.
As a book, I love Ender’s Game to tiny pieces. It’s the anthem for the smart young outsider, and it’s a hell of an adventure story. I love it and I’m ashamed of how much I love it because it’s written by this man:
“Regardless of law, marriage has only one definition, and any government that attempts to change it is my mortal enemy. I will act to destroy that government and bring it down, so it can be replaced with a government that will respect and support marriage.” —Orson Scott Card
Orson Scott Card sits on the board of the National Organization for Marriage, attempting to ensure the second-class treatment of queer people and (impotently, but still) threatening to destroy the government over matters of simple equality. He is a frothing, virulent bigot.
Don’t pay to see his movie. Don’t let a cent of your money go to him or encourage the studio to make more films which make him more money to give to people who think pro-equality governments are their mortal enemy.
Co-signing this. OSC is also the unbearable shitbiscuit who described heterosexual relationships as "suppression of natural desires, and an unending effort to learn how to get through the intersexual swamp" and wrote the worst Hamlet AU ever, wherein Horatio, Laertes, Rosencrantz, and Guildenstern are all gay-by-molestation and ends with Hamlet being dragged to Hell by his father’s ghost, where he’ll get molested for all eternity. Why are all of them gay-by-molestation? Maybe it has something to do with what he thinks homosexuality is:
"There is a myth that homosexuals are ‘born that way,’ and we are pounded with this idea so thoroughly that many people think that somebody, somewhere, must have proved it […] The dark secret of homosexual society—the one that dares not speak its name—is how many homosexuals first entered into that world through a disturbing seduction or rape or molestation or abuse, and how many of them yearn to get out of the homosexual community and live normally."
Editor’s note: John D. Sutter is a human rights and social change columnist for CNN Opinion. E-mail him at CTL@CNN.com or follow him on Twitter (@jdsutter), Facebook or Google+. This column contains language that may offend some readers.
Franklin County, Mississippi (CNN) — Statistically speaking, Franklin County should be straighter than John Wayne eating Chick-fil-A. The middle-of-nowhere rectangle in southwest Mississippi — known for its pine forests, hog hunting and an infamous hate crime — is home to exactly zero same-sex couples, according to an analysis of census data.
In other words: It’s a place where gays don’t exist.
At least not on paper.
Before I visited Franklin County, I figured there must be gay people living in Straight County USA. But I didn’t expect anyone to be open about it — and with good reason. As part of this op-ed project, I recently ranked the Hospitality State as one of the least hospitable for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people, based on its lack of legal protections. In addition to allowing gays and lesbians to be fired because of who they are, Mississippi is also gracious enough to let landlords evict gay residents.
Those are great incentives for a gay person to become invisible. And being invisible, of course, could mean avoiding census workers.
I drove to this place of rolling hills and misty valleys with a few questions on my mind: Can there really be such a thing as an all-straight county? If so, what is it like to be someone who never has met a gay person? Do you just watch “Glee” and figure it out?
If there are gay people in Franklin County, what keeps them hidden?
I spent a few days searching for answers before I realized I was making the wrong assumptions: It’s not that gay people here (or anywhere really) want to be in the closet, necessarily. It’s the rest of the world that pushes them in and shuts the door.
serious post time
you have never been killed for being straight
you have never been beaten up for being straight
you have never been kicked out of your house for being straight
you have never told you are just going through a phase for being straight
you have never had to defend your own sexuality to people whose support is entirely predicated on whether or not youre “too gay” for them
you have never felt so alone that you literally have to pretend characters in tv shows and books are gay so you can relate to somebody
you have never had to keep your head down for 18 years of your life and then some for being straight all the while being told that as long as you silently suffer the humiliation, the death threats, the real and imagined violence inflicted by school bullies and political pundits and every fucking person who thinks they can somehow justify their hatred with those magical three words “just my opinion” you’ll have a chance at a decent life
so dont you fucking dare say heterophobia is as bad as homophobia just because you got picked on once for being straight, and dont you dare act like trying to take away the one steam escape valve angry queer people have for venting at the people who have hurt them their entire lives is anything close to a meaningful crusade