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Ain't My Bitch
I’m not going to pretend that this is a comprehensive, authoritative, or definitive examination of this tremendously complex issue and...
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Tremble for yourself, my man,
You know that you have seen this all before. -
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Dammit, Jim
say it with me now:
- bullying the bully is not the answer
- bullying the bully is not the answer
- bullying the bully is not the answer
b u l l y i n g t h e b u l l y i s n o t t h e a n s w e r- BULLYING THE FUCKING BULLY IS NOT THE GODDAMNED ANSWER
I’m curious as to what constitutes “bullying” in this person’s handbook, because at my school, “bullying” included every form of standing up for yourself with the exception of asking nicely for them to stop or getting a teacher. Hilariously, bullying was only an administrative matter (that is, one that was punished by the vice principal and not on a case-by-case teacher basis) if the victim retaliated, thus ensuring that the only time someone would actually do anything about the victim’s bullying problem was when they themselves were “the bully.”
There’s a difference between standing up for yourself, verbally or physically if need be, and bullying, is what I’m saying.
(via gaytomic-bomb)
I got into comedy to respond to bullies, not be one.
(via acidreign)
Hey. Don’t just scroll past. Come back and watch this. You need it more than you know.
holy shit.
the time out of your day to watch this will not be wasted, I assure you.
Okay seriously, yall need to watch this.
I’m reblogging this again because you gotta fucking watch it okay.
Oh my god
Holy shit this needs to be watched
This is perfect. For everyone out there who suffers the way many of us do.
Watch this because I love you all and you need to know.
oh my god my eyes won’t stop.
I am getting fucking chills. Everyone needs to watch this shit, it is gorgeous fucking shit.
pro tip: you can make your greatest efforts to avoid racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, ableist, etc etc language and still have fun and still make jokes and still be funny! true comedy is inoffensive.
(via spacebeastie)
The Bullying Culture of Medical School
For 30 years, medical educators have known that becoming a doctor requires more than an endless array of standardized exams, long hours on the wards and years spent in training. For many medical students, verbal and physical harassment and intimidation are part of the exhausting process, too.
It was a pediatrician, a pioneer in work with abused children, who first noted the problem. And early studies found that abuse of medical students was most pronounced in the third year of medical school, when students began working one on one or in small teams with senior physicians and residents in the hospital. The first surveys found that as many as 85 percent of students felt they had been abused during their third year. They described mistreatment that ranged from being yelled at and told they were “worthless” or “the stupidest medical student,” to being threatened with bad grades or a ruined career and even getting hit, pushed or made the target of a thrown medical tool.
Nonetheless, many of these researchers believed that such mistreatment could be eliminated, or at least significantly mitigated, if each medical school acknowledged the behavior, then created institutional anti-harassment policies, grievance committees and educational, training and counseling programs to break the abuse cycle.
(via coffeebuddha)
If anyone has any young people that are experiencing bullying or at risk of being bullied in their schools (or are at risk of being bullies themselves, that could be it too)
then come by the Batten Against Bullies event at Hollins University Tayloe gym.
We have snacks, information and resources about how to combat bullying or stop being a bully, fun crafts, and an open mic at 2:30!
bemusedlybespectacled and I will be here from 12 noon (so, now) to 3 PM, so stop on by!
(Please. Please stop by. We promise not to sacrifice your kids to Satan or anything. We’re nice, I promise.)
Signal boosting. We really do need people, and how often do you get to see my face? (Answer: never) So please come by, we’re friendly folk.
Well, this is relatable for both mun and muse.
Ten years. That’s a little more than half my life.
(via imromeomotherfuckers)
Bisexuals, pansexuals, polysexuals, transexuals, non-cis and whatever else…
SHUT THE FUCK UP!
Stop feeling oppressed because you’re not a majority. Majority does not, nor will it ever equate to normality.
People feel oppressed because they’re not represented in media, they have shit-tons of harmful stereotypes about them, they could lose their jobs or their families if they come out, and they could be killed for being who they are. Not because they’re not the majority.
The world doesn’t have to fucking change just so you feel more ordinary.
If feeling “ordinary” means knowing that there are other people like you, then fuck yes, it does. Especially for people growing up who think there’s only one way to be bi or whatever.
Go save the gay who’s undergoing the death penalty in Uganda, rather than bitching about a word and standard generalization someone unknowingly used. Or didn’t know the meaning of.
Because people only care about one issue and never care about other issues? Fuck you. I care about the people in Uganda just as much as I care about the people in Russia and the people in Western countries.
Also, how exactly are people going to know how to use a word correctly if people don’t correct them? I’m not saying that people should be flipping out at children who don’t know any better, but just correcting someone isn’t bitching.
Just stop labeling yourself and don’t let people get to you.
Because it’s just that easy, right? Yeahno.
To the simpleton, “pansexuality”, “bisexuality” and “polysexuality” are ALL THE SAME THING. You fuck boys and girls and aren’t so narrow minded. LEAVE IT AT THAT.
I’m not going to get in to the fact that there are more than just boys and girls and that each of those labels mean different things to different people, nor will I write a treatise on why orientation doesn’t equal behavior, so I will just say that they overlap, and they bleed into each other, but there are different terms for different reasons.
I don’t want LGBT to involve the entire fucking alphabet for minute differences. It’s a movement that covers sexually oppressed people. End of story.
Then use GSM (Gender and Sexual Minority) if more than four letters is difficult for you.
I was bullied throughout my schooling for various reasons and grew up in a fairly conservative town. I know what it feels like to be subjected to peoples’ arrogant bullshit. The BEST thing you can do is grow the confidence to say “fuck you, I thoroughly enjoy being me.”
Who gives a fuck what a narrow-minded bitch thinks of you?
Right. Because ignoring bullying is just that simple.
Humans are social creatures. We want to be liked. We spend our entire lives trying to be liked. And humans have emotions, and those emotions are what make us human. You can’t just feel the emotions you want to feel - emotions don’t work that way. You can’t make yourself feel happy without any reason whatsoever, and you can’t make yourself stop feeling sad on a whim.
Saying “just ignore the haters” is ridiculously simplistic and doesn’t address the actual issues, and it smacks of, “If you just ignored them, they wouldn’t bully you anymore.”
And that’s not even going into who’s doing the bullying. What if the narrow-minded bitch is your mother? Your best friend from elementary school? One of your teachers? Your boss? You can’t just ignore it then. You can’t ignore every ignorant person in the world; you would crack under the strain.
And you know what? It’s hard to enjoy being you when the world hates who you are and makes you question everything about yourself. It’s hard to enjoy being yourself when people are threatening to set you on fire.
Followers, please reblog this, do not like.
You MUST have this on your blog. Everyone needs to see. (x)
8 year old girl of color gets a humiliating award from her teacher.
This is how children of color are treated in schools, people, especially brown children. How will this child trust teachers actually care about her again? Huh? Tell me that.
The teacher tried to brush this shit off and say it was “just a joke.” Yeah… because humiliating a child in a classroom full of her peers is just fucking hilarious. I’m willing to put money on the fact that she’d never do this shit to a nice little white child.
Don’t read the comments, just don’t.
What kind of sociopathic bullshit excuse is that? Bullying children is never funny. End. Of. Story.
(via masenko-your-face)
Bitter Grapes: How To Have Your Bullying Taken Seriously: A Guide for People in Schools
Be white. This is extremely important—be sure to do this.
If you’re not cis, hetereosexual, abled, fluent in English, thin, male, or conventionally attractive, be absolutely sure that none of your bullying is because of those marginalizations and that none of your bullies are privileged over you on those axes.
Report the bullying before it even happened—otherwise, you waited too long.
Make sure your school officials are competent and take everything seriously.
Never make a single ordinary human mistake.
Conduct every action you take in such a way that no bully, no matter how rationalizing and self-serving, could possibly take it as an excuse to bully you.
Take every single piece of advice from every single person, including mutually exclusive bullshit.
Make sure your bully has absolutely no friends or people who will stick up for them.
Fulfill every trope that might get you sympathy, including tropes which are not physically possible.
Never get the slightest bit angry—in fact, never react with anything but teary accepting smiles of stoic “strength”.
Do not criticize authority figures for failing to do anything useful for you.
Make sure you never, ever complain about the utter failures of adults and authority figures around you to combat the bullying.
Don’t develop mental health problems or scars from your bullying, because then you’re a psycho who probably deserved it.
Make sure your bully can be socially seen as being evil.
* Make sure your is actually physically violent towards you. Real bullying is always physical, complete with dramatic wounds.
* Make sure your friends are also white, cis, abled, male, heterosexual, thin, and conventionally attractive. Make sure that they are also popular among teachers and students alike.
Anonymous Asks:
bemusedlybespectacled Said:
150: The meanest thing somebody has ever said to me
I think it’s a toss-up between “fat, unfuckable whore” and the time someone said within my hearing that my green eyeshadow make me look like I had diarrhea on my face.
WASHINGTON — Heather Wilson, a Republican running for U.S. Senate in New Mexico, came out against Sen. Al Franken’s (D-Minn.) anti-LGBT bullying legislation last week, claiming it would criminalize teasing and “punish children.”
Last year, Franken introduced SB 555, known as the Student Non-Discrimination Act. Right now, federal civil rights laws make clear it is illegal to discriminate against individuals based on their race, color, sex, religion, disability and national origin. Franken’s bill would expand those categories to prohibit discrimination and bullying in public schools based on sexual orientation or gender identity as well.
Wilson’s comments in opposition to the bill came during an April 12 debate with her primary opponent in the Senate race, Greg Sowards. They were caught on video by the Democratic group American Bridge. Wilson claimed that SB 555 would “criminalize” instances in which one child makes fun of another for having a “low voice,” and that it would outlaw anyone expressing an opinion “with respect to homosexuality in the schools” (emphasis added):
It is a act that would criminalize harassment or bullying in schools of children who are gay or who — it criminalizes bullying. It basically makes federal funding dependent on school board policies that will not tolerate bullying of people based on their sexual orientation or, you know, even when kids are below puberty.
I mean if somebody gets bullied for having, gosh a low voice — that’s never happened to me. … But I think one of the things why I don’t support the act is because I think it’s misplaced. They are things I’m willing to tolerate that I’m not willing to approve.
With respect to this particular agenda we have to recognize as parents that children tease each other because you’re short or you’re tall or you’re a redhead or because you’re ugly or because you’re smart or because you’re dumb or all kinds of differences and as parents we have to deal with that and strengthen our children to be comfortable with themselves and also to show empathy and acceptance towards others, but that particular act is so broad it would actually punish children and say that it’s prohibited to express an opinion with respect to homosexuality in the schools. I just think that’s wrong and it’s a violation of the First Amendment.
Fuck.
This.
Person.
