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cbrachyrhynchos:

Arguing on the basis of roots is problematic because roots have a meaning derived from the history and politics of actual use. For example, we don’t interpret “transsexual” to mean “sexual attraction toward people sitting across from me” even though the root “trans” in Latin is used predominantly as a spacial adjective or adverb. The pairing of a spacial adjective with a linguistic noun to describe gender in ways that were quite binary until the last few decades is a social construction.

Similarly, the history and politics of “bisexual” starts with Krafft-Ebing borrowing the term from botany and zoology to describe people who were not exclusively heterosexual or homosexual. Arguably he and other early psychologists including Freud are responsible for constructing heterosexuality as well. Gender deviance and homosexuality were widely considered to go hand-in-hand under those theories, and still are outside of America. So there’s a fairly rich and complex history of trans people and nonbinary people within gay and lesbian communities until quite recently. If we’re going to discard bisexual as tainted by the theoretical assumptions of prior generations who imposed the term on us, we should reject the entire kit and kaboodle, including the Freudian relic of “pansexual.”

The 80s and 90s saw the emergence of a bisexual movement which considered autobiography and autoethnography to be more important than either the theoretical approaches of people like Kinsey and Klein or linguistic roots. And what we found is that people identified as bisexual were not necessarily binary either in gender or sexuality. Central to this conflict is what I consider to be a fundamental principle of queer theory, that abstract theory derivative of heterosexist science is less important than politics, history, and most importantly, the voices of diverse queer people. The entire point was to deconstruct the idea that human sexuality can be classified into sheep and goats based on largely theoretical dividing lines like the number of genders.

The idea that complex histories, attractions, and relationships should be reduced to single words for the sake of convenience has less to do with communicating those concepts than with constructing political shibboleths. If you want to understand my sexuality, gender, relationships, and politics you need to 1) buy me a cup of coffe, 2) ask, and 3) be prepared to listen for a good half-hour, because I don’t speak in label, I speak in complete paragraphs. I have a button that’s older than many people participating in this discussion that reads “don’t assume I’m attracted to you/don’t assume I’m not.”

Bisexuality is inclusive of nonbinary gender and sexuality because we as bisexual people said so in describing our own lives, ideals, and experiences. We have done so repeatedly, consistently, and firmly over the last 25 years. So the question needs to be asked as to why Victorian and Edwardian shrinks are more authoritative in defining bisexuality than bisexual people.

And on the other hand, I’m bisexual because I am identified as bisexual by a biphobic culture. Playing hokey pokey with language doesn’t change that, and until you erase anti-bisexual prejudice, I will insist on using “bisexual” as an adjective to describe my relationship with those forms of oppression.

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blackmagicalgirlmisandry:

obviously not all monosexual privilege is the same, hets take the cake of having both heterosexual privilege and monosexual privilege. but non-monosexual queer/bi/pan folks have every right to name our oppression that exists within queer power dynamics. that oppression includes being erased from both within our community and outside our community. 

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bugchat:

the word ‘bisexuality’ is a taboo

it isn’t said on tv. orange is the new black, for example, features a bisexual protagonist who points out the biphobia at one point in assuming she can’t be attracted to multiple genders, but no one Ever says the word and she is ignored and referred to as a straight girl or a lesbian depending on the situation

other bisexual characters later turn out to have been Really Monosexual All Along. or are attractive, promiscuous women with commitment issues

this isn’t a coincidence.

people who are attracted to multiple genders, when asked about it, often describe themselves as “Fluid”. “I’d rather not label it.” “I don’t need to define it.” “It’s just whatever.” as if people are afraid of even implying the b word

this isn’t a coincidence.

the word ‘bisexual’ gets you different reactions in different places. straight people think you’re either faking for attention or a deviant. straight men are afraid of bi men and think bi women are just particularly promiscuous straight girls who want to have threesomes with them

gay men accuse bi men of being in the closet. lesbians accuse bi women of being straight girls going through a phase. and the ones who don’t do either of these things still often assume bisexuals are promiscuous, indecisive, and can’t settle down.

the theme throughout is that bisexually is illegitimate, deceptive, and always a front for something else.

this isn’t a coincidence

people are constantly encouraged to ‘settle down’, to ‘just pick one’, to ‘not be greedy’. abandon bisexuality. you’re really gay. you’re really straight. you’re too young. how can you know you’re bisexual at 16? 18? 20? 25?

this isn’t a coincidence

the word ‘bisexuality’ is constantly, persistently manipulated, by people who aren’t bisexual at all. the meaning twisted on shallow rationale. accused of being transphobic, or of being exclusionary. this has been happening for over 20 years now despite the existence of outspoken trans and/or non-binary bisexuals. whatever they can do to make you not say the word. pick a different one.

this isn’t a coincidence

bisexual people - whether implied or literally, deliberately saying they are bisexual using the word - are constantly rewritten as gay or as straight. gay icon. he was never interested in men. bi actor comes out? headlines say ‘came out as gay’, or articles outright ignore it

it’s never, ever a coincidence. bi erasure is a constant, ongoing thing.

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goldstarbisexual:

bihet? must be a nifty new way of referring to a pair of heterosexuals.

because i know you wouldn’t flippantly invalidate the identities of a large swath of the queer community by calling them straight.

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petratodd:

emperorirene:

hauntedpages:

In a (not) shocking turn of events, a network decides to erase a character’s bisexuality. 

I honestly couldn’t care less about the bisexuality, they can just make him asexual and it’s peachy. BUT THE FUCKING SMOKING R U SRS HOW THE FUCK DO YOU GET RID OF THE MOST IMPORTANT PLOT POINT

They actually said that they’re going to show him stubbing out a cigarette, and that he is still a smoker. They’re just not going to glorify smoking, which is responsible.

Frankly, I DO care about bisexual erasure. It isn’t something unhealthy like smoking, or something that could potentially damage others. It’s just who he is. And Cerone’s response was crap.

If Cerone thinks that his bisexuality isn’t important to the character THEN IT DOESN’T MATTER IF THEY SHOW IT, DOES IT?

fucking biphobic snot tissues

brothasoul:

k-b-rock:

placesbetween:

Looks like the people who are working on Constantine are choosing to ignore the fact that he is bisexual. Officially boycotting this show. Having a lead who is canonically bisexual and making him straight is not only frustrating, but downright offensive in a world where bi-erasure is the norm. 

According to this article, Cerone feels Constantine’s sexuality isn’t historically a “crucial aspect of the character” and that it’s not especially important to acknowledge him as bisexual because “nearly all of the character’s relationships in the comics have been with women,” so…gross.

wow fuck that

fucking fuck fuckity fuck fuck

brothasoul:

k-b-rock:

placesbetween:

Looks like the people who are working on Constantine are choosing to ignore the fact that he is bisexual. Officially boycotting this show. Having a lead who is canonically bisexual and making him straight is not only frustrating, but downright offensive in a world where bi-erasure is the norm. 

According to this article, Cerone feels Constantine’s sexuality isn’t historically a “crucial aspect of the character” and that it’s not especially important to acknowledge him as bisexual because “nearly all of the character’s relationships in the comics have been with women,” so…gross.

wow fuck that

fucking fuck fuckity fuck fuck

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Asker hauntter Asks:
a straight person just said they knew where i was coming from with all the negative stigma behind being bisexual bc they're left handed and they get teased about it sometimes
bemusedlybespectacled bemusedlybespectacled Said:

bi-privilege:

brigittefires:

knusegrus:

brigittefires:

bi-privilege:

omg stop straight people 2k14

It really was at one point in time, though, and there are STILL teachers forcing left-handed students to write right-handed, STILL entire communities telling kids they’re possessed by the devil for using their left hand.

No, being “teased about it sometimes” is not the same thing. But
a) I’d be surprised if this was the whole story, both from the perspective of the person posting it AND from the person who said it;
b) did you know that sometimes people say things casually, seemingly minimizing their personal impact, to avoid triggering themselves?
c) for some people it is actually very similar rhetoric being thrown at them;
d) left-handedness is only a couple decades ahead of bisexuality as far as attitudes against it go.

Congratulations on your missing of the point, you must be so proud! Call us back when left handed people are assaulted, raped and murdered.

So these are some people who still exist: http://www.landoverbaptist.net/showthread.php?t=49703

Left-handedness has been considered a disability for hundreds of years. I don’t think I need to google for you evidence that disabled people have been killed for being disabled. Certainly there is plenty of lore about left-handed children being killed for being evil you can find, but most of it is pre-internet-era with good reason.

I’m not sure that pretending others haven’t suffered makes our suffering bigger somehow, and attacking other oppressed groups for being more accepted than you sooner certainly doesn’t make our suffering more important.

you do realize landover baptist is a group satirizing fundamental christianity and the religious right?????

Does this person realize that saying “I’m left-handed so I know how biphobia feels” is like saying “I’m Irish so I know how racism feels”?

trans-carlos:

stop calling bi, poly, and pan girl lesbians 2k14

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tyleroakley:

"Bisexuality: Setting the Record Straight"

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fandomsandfeminism:

stovepipehat:

zagreus-taking-time-apart:

taromillas:

fandomsandfeminism:

big-meaty-cock:

fandomsandfeminism:

Reminder to come help us get #BisexualSteveRogers trending on Twitter today! If diversity in media is important to you, help us out. :) 

Dude. Steven Rogers isn’t bisexual though. He is too dedicated to God and from the time period he grew up, probably thinks that being gay is a sin. If anything, Tony Stark should be canon bisexual. I’m sorry, but I am 100% against this.

Have you ever read a Captain America comic?

He great up in a queer neighborhood in Brooklyn. He was an artist. One of his best friends (Arnie Roth) is gay, and Steve helped rescue his boyfriend from kidnappers. The one defining trait of Steve is that he hates bullies. You think he would be homophobic? Really?

You’re entire characterization of Steve is really, really off base. 

Also, like, you can believe in God and be bisexual? 

No, he’s not bisexual, in any way. There are so many things wrong with you for thinking that he can be. He’s a Christian soldier fighting in the WW2 Era time period. That time period was probably the straightest the entire nation has been thus far, bisexuality and homosexuality was morally incorrect, and he was all about doing whats right.

And no, you cannot be a “bisexual christian” because that doesn’t mean you’re actually a christian anymore, you’re a fake who’s wearing the label to try and gain acceptance from multiple groups. You’re disrespecting the religion as a whole, the character that is Captain America, and America it self.

American values were founded with God in mind, the entire nation was created with God as it’s leading point. Do not blaspheme something like that, grow up and get some respect for all of these things.

Not to mention, this is a stupid thing to try and cause an argument for anyways, you’re arguing over the sexuality of a character, when its VERY fucking obvious he’s a straight white male. GET OVER IT FEMINISTS. STRAIGHT WHILE MALES WILL ALWAYS EXIST 

what

I’m seriously doubting the motives behind this. Why exactly does it have to be Captain America anyway?

You’re “doubting the motives behind this?” What do you think our motives are? World domination? Straight people extermination? Discontinuing peanut butter M&Ms? What is your fear? 

Our motives are simple: We’re a group of most LGBTQIAP+ Captain America fans who want to see ourselves more represented within the MCU. It’s not that complicated or insidious. 

Steve Rogers is our focus for a number of reasons.

Meta-wise, he’s a very visible character, he’s a protagonist, and he is by definition patriotic. If he were to be canonly bisexual, it would combat a lot of really terrible stereotypes about bisexual people and generate a lot of interest and attention because of his status as a cultural icon. 

In-story, it simply works well for his character. Many of us see clear parallels between his interactions with Peggy and Sharon with his interactions with Bucky and Sam. His banter, his body language, the depth of his feelings for them seem comparable. Beyond that, Steve is someone who goes against expectations. He wasn’t the popular football playing jock kid. He was a poor, orphaned artist who grew up in a predominately queer neighborhood who was progressive beyond his time and always seemed to struggle with himself at times. He got beat up a lot but never backed down. That’s a narrative that many LGBTQIAP+ fans identify with, and it’s very easy to see how being bisexual would fit into that backstory seamlessly.  

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ok but thing is it doesn't really matter what kind of profound contemplation you went through over the use of the term, d*ke isn't for us it's for lesbians. its not for queer women in general when /they've/ been the target. it's not about being a gatekeeper into /queer spaces/ its about groups having their own spaces within a community. what you're doing is invasive to others. does trying justifying your use of the term overrule what the people who've had it targeted against them have to say?
bemusedlybespectacled bemusedlybespectacled Said:

princess-passion-flower:

bidyke:

So, apparently I’ve never written this sentence clearly, so here goes:

"Dyke" has never been exclusively used against lesbians. It is and has been routinely used against bi women because - GET THIS - you can’t tell apart between lesbians and bi women unless you ask them how they identify.

OMG.

Imagine that.

NOTE: any further ask about this will be deleted. Kthx.

My manager at work has referred to me as a dyke half a dozen times and he knows i am bisexual. 

peachmagic:

antylan:

peachmagic:

support bi women in relationships with men. support bi women in relationships with nb ppl. support bi women in relationships with other women. support bi women no matter their partners.

why cant we support every bi person????

a post??? specifically about w???omen???? nO

rabhelpants:

A look into the experiences of bisexual women who happened to fall in love with men

Graphics by Chris Ritter

My mom suggested to me that I remove my sexuality on fb once I started dating a guy. That was cool.

bisexual-community:

ketisfolk:

There are fewer public faces out there that openly identify with the bisexual community. Why?

There’s a Pew Research poll that shows that more than 70% of gay men and lesbians are out to “most of the important people in their lives,” but only 28% of bi people are. That’s the problem. As Harvey Milk told gay people, the way to shatter those stereotypes is to be out and confront them. Coming out is what drives change. And a lot of bi people know that. But there’s something about the bisexual experience that makes coming out easier to avoid, and more difficult to do ….

you know … I came out as bi before I was gay, and since most gay people are all the way out, for a lot of people, the only bi people they’ve ever known in their lives are gay people who were lying about being bi. And so they moved through their life thinking that all bi people are lying. And closeted bi people are negatively impacted by that misconception.

It’s just a thought, but here is at least one reason not as many bisexual people may appear to be out. When we do try to come out, various self important agony aunties sneer at us and say things like,

“I meet someone who’s 19-years-old who tells me he’s bisexual and I’m like, ‘Yeah, right, I doubt it. I tell them come back when you’re like 29 and we’ll see.’”

And who is this person who disbelieves, dismisses and forcibly shoves bisexuals right back into the closet when they try to come out? Why that would be none other than the well know LGBT talking head, Dan Savage himself.

You know, I went into this article thinking, “Maybe this ISN’T Dan Savage being a biphobic and transphobic asswipe!”

NOPE. TURNS OUT HE’S THE SAME BIPHOBIC AND TRANSPHOBIC ASSHOLE WE ALL KNOW AND HATE!

noojabes:

aight let me say this tho. when biphobic lesbians say things like ‘i don’t wanna be anywhere a guy has been” or the more cissexist/transmisogynistic “i don’t wanna be anywhere a dick has been”

you’re. kind of treating a bi woman like a used object. and totally qualifying her based on her past experiences. and deciding what does or does not impact her worth and purity. 

and ur a piece of crap.

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