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"I’m sick of how bisexuality is erased in LGBT spaces. I get really nervous before any LGBT event, especially Pride. I feel incredibly sad and hopeless when gay and lesbian people call me insulting names. If gay and lesbian people don’t understand me – Continue reading Prejudice at Pride at Empathize This

This just punched me in the heart.

(via moniquill)

until my relationship starts dating another relationship

I am not in a straight relationship

I am not in a gay relationship

I am in a relationship. period.

my relationship does not have a gender or an orientation: I DO.


here’s a radical thought: how about when a character is bi it’s actually explicitly said that they’re bi rather than tiptoeing around the subject as if we don’t all fucking know that they. are. bi.

(via bi-privilege)

  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "Rumors that this person had different gender attraction as well as same gender attraction were created to make them seem straight."
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "If you headcanon this character as bi instead of gay you're forcing heterosexuality on them."
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: (calls past mixed gender relationships of a bi person "straight relationships")
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "As much as we'd like to let bisexuals into our community, when the going gets tough they'll probably align themselves with heteros to save their skins."
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "So you're only half queer?"
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: (assumes all bi women date men and all bi men date women)
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "Bisexuals will never know what it's like to experience real bigotry the way we do."
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "I'd rather have a straight ally represent me than a bi person, at least good allies acknowledge their privilege."
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "You have a preference for different gender people? So you're actually hetero then?"
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: (assumes all bi people date straight people)
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "Why would you need 'bi pride,' gay pride already celebrates same gender attraction, isn't that enough? Do you really need to celebrate your heterosexual side too?"
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "You need to acknowlege your straight passing privelege."
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: (bi person breaks up with them) "So it turns out they were hetero all along."
  • Bi Person: ...
  • Bi Person: "Sometimes Monosex-"
  • Gay and Lesbian Monosexuals: "Excuse me? Did you just lump US in with STRAIGHT PEOPLE? Do you realize how much it hurts to be put in the same category as your OPPRESSOR? Why are you obsessed with proving that you're QUEERER THAN US? If you don't issue us an APOLOGY and then NEVER use that word again it will prove that bi people are the most HOMOPHOBIC people in the world!"


Lesbians, and especially butch and/or gender non-normative women, were often relegated to the margins of the feminist movement; because of this exclusion, lesbians worked to create their own space. But biphobic attitudes and woman-identified-woman identities within the lesbian feminist community forced bisexual women to form a space independent of lesbian feminists. This essay looks at the place, space, and role of bisexuality within the wider lesbian community and the perceptions from both lesbian and bisexual women concerning bisexual representation in radical lesbian politics.

Wow, what a fantastic essay on the history of bisexual organizing and activism!  I had never heard of some of these fantastic bi women :)

- Sarah 

(via burdenedwithgloriousbooty)


Being “Bi-critical” isn’t new. Being “Bi-critical” isn’t radical. 

99% of everyone I fucking meet is critical of my Bisexuality.

This is why I can’t trust Mono people.

wait, what the fuck is “bi-critical”? Were people not content to be trans-critical, so they decided to go after MORE marginalized people?

(via bi-privilege)

Asker Anonymous Asks:
some lesbian / gay people dont think bi / pan / multi people cant use the word "gay" and yet our community is ALWAYS referred to as the "gay" community among. i think you posted about this before but what do you have to say about this issue?
bemusedlybespectacled bemusedlybespectacled Said:


yeah it’s ridiculous like if you didn’t want multisexuals to use the word gay to describe themselves then you probably shouldn’t have started using gay as an umbrella term to start with


bi people experience the highest rates of sexual abuse, physical abuse, rape, mental illness, receive almost no representation in the media but dID you kNOw that when they “choose” to be in a “heterosexual” relationship they can HoLD hAndS??? straight passing privilege wins again god fucking damn it. 

(via bi-privilege)

Dissecting a character to fit a heteronormative box is sloppy and irresponsible. Bisexuals deserve to be represented in media too — not erased or straight-washed. If NBC can’t handle portraying a bisexual male character, then perhaps the network shouldn’t take on John Constantine.

Sexuality is always a part of a character — however minimal — but some sort of romantic or sexual relationship is usually a significant plot point in superhero stories. A bisexual male superhero would disrupt the hetero male template of, “hero saves damsel in distress” that we see consistently in iconic stories like Superman, Spiderman, and Captain America. But it’s 2014, and sometimes men need saving too.

There’s something particularly elusive about bisexual male characters. There is a deeply ingrained misconception that a man can’t be romantically involved with another man and still be interested in women as well. It’s centered on the idea that masculinity requires a wanting, and “getting” of women, and not men. But the depiction of Constantine in Hellblazer proves that is a false assumption.

NBC’s Straight-Washing of John Constantine is Bi Erasure | Eliel Cruz for the Advocate Magazine (via gaywrites)

It’s bad enough networks don’t create bisexual characters let alone when they "straightwash" an existing one from (30 years!) canon. Make your voice heard!

  1. Sign the Petition then signal boost it to your friends on Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter, and anything else you can think of
  2. Tweet using the hashtag #BiBlazer (A combination of Bisexual and Hellblazer) to stop the bi erasure of a canon bisexual character. Direct your tweets to @JohnConWriters and @NBCConstantine.

(via bisexual-community)

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Writing off the word bisexual as exclusionary means cutting ties with bisexuals who were romantically and sexually involved with people of more than two genders decades before we were even born, and whom were forced to struggle and fight for recognition, only to now be othered as oppressors who aren’t “queer enough” for young gays, lesbians, and pansexuals.

Part of a Very Long History of hetero (& homo) normative cisgender monosexuals ignoring anything actual bisexual people had to say for and about themselves, inventing amazingly screwy definitions and creating new terms (i.e. ambisexual in 1912, omnisexual in 1959, pansexual in 1917, etc., etc., etc.) that they then imposed on bisexual people no matter what we said.

The question is, do they think that by slicing, dicing and redefining us, bisexuals will actually go away forever?

Or are we just supposed to get confused & discouraged and go away long enough for them to use our statistics and numbers while they scoop up all the grant funding, jobs, tenured teaching positions, groups and programs and other goodies?

(via mcdelta-t)

(via asexualxbisexual)



Schooled  Larry King.

Watch the full interview here.

So to be bisexual do we have to be fucking both sexes at once?! Seriously?! All the time? That would be exhausting!!

Shut that shit down, Anna.

(via nothingeverlost)


*points to favorite character* bisexual

*fandom crying loudly* no…stop……theyre not….they either homogay or heterostraight…..please don’t….

*points to favorite character again* love that bisexual

(via dragons-princess)


I can’t fucking stand it when people say stuff like “oh every 13 year old think they’re bi” because:

I didn’t.

I didn’t let myself DARE think it.

I was TERRIFIED to find myself attracted to multiple genders…

because biphobic assholes kept insisting bi wasn’t real and I thought something was horribly wrong with me.

(via agenderscott)

  • gay & lesbian monosexuals: um no bi people cannot ID additionally as gay/lesbian you are appropriating gay and lesbian culture
  • gay & lesbian monosexuals: *calls two bisexuals being in a same-gender relationship a gay/lesbian relationship*


Heterosexual character who develops feelings for someone of the same sex; “I’m not gay! Am I? Oh but I love this person. Well, turns out I’m gay!”




Just erase every other sexuality 

Here’s an idea

Maybe they’re bisexual!

Maybe they’re pansexual!

Maybe they’re heterosexual, but this person is an exception!

Maybe they don’t know what the fuck they are and don’t really care!

Maybe people don’t just suddenly become gay because of one person

Maybe gay isn’t the only alternative sexuality out there

Maybe media starts to realise this

(via jcatgrl)