"Biphobia isn’t real, it’s just homophobia!"
gay people calling bisexuals “greedy” or “not real queers”
Hmm, well that’s if you’re looking at interpersonal stuff.
The fascinating thing is, if you apply the argument in quote marks to structural stuff eg bis reporting higher incidence of rape or mental health problems then you basically come to the conclusion that homophobia affects bi people worse than it affects non-bi gay people. Which is not a conclusion you hear articulated and one that people who make the argument in the quote marks would presumably aggressively reject.
I’m bisexual, this means I’m attracted to:
1) the same sex/gender
2) other sex/genders
Can you dig it?
I’m bisexual this means
1) I’m attracted to two or more genders.
2) Exactly how many genders is none of your business.
3) Exactly what genders and to what degree is none of your business.
Can you dig it?
Bisexuals = people who can ♥ people of SAME Gender as themselves + can ♥ people of DIFFERENT Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves
jennifer fucking lawrence doesn’t think that bisexual women can have sex with men or have kids, and then referred to bisexuality as a “lesbian phase”
but she said that she likes food! shes so quirky and relatable you cant criticize her! she makes funny faces sometimes! did i mention she likes food!
"GAY RIGHTS!" - Jennifer Lawrence
how can she think bisexual women don’t have sex with men that is literally a significant part of the whole “bi” thing
Biphobia manifests in a number of different ways in the LGBTQ community, where getting into a heterosexual relationship is a form of betrayal. My last girlfriend was an oddity and a curiosity amongst my friends, as if I were the gay best friend she just happened to be dating, and her friends assumed we were dating for the threesomes. Such stigmas and misconceptions around bisexuality are so rampant that I don’t often disclose my sexuality to the partners I date. If I feel comfortable “coming out” to them, sometimes it’s a non-issue, as if I were telling them I had blue eyes. However, it’s more often than not a dealbreaker. A guy I was dating once told me that he “could never date a bi guy,” because he felt like he could never be enough for him. A bi guy would always want something more.
I’ve also heard that bisexuality is a “hippie new age affectation” and a “cheat,” as if you only have to come out halfway — but bisexuals will have to continue coming out for the rest of their lives. They will have to repeatedly explain themselves, which can be exhausting when you have to deal with prejudice both outside your community and from the people you expect to support you. Unfortunately, this won’t be the last time that Gaga will have to remind us that she’s bisexual, fighting for her place in the spectrum. Lady Gaga belongs in the LGBTQ community, waving a flag alongside the rest of us. It’s biphobia that needs to be erased.
“assuming Dean to be bisexual is heteronormative”
that’s the stupidest thing i’ve heard all day and i work in telecom
someone needs to inform the backwards land daily times of this startling revelation that bisexuals are straight
Amy Andre in “Nothing About Us Without Us” from her speech on problems of Physical Health in the Bisexual Community, at a bisexual roundtable on 23 September 2013 in Washington DC USA (via bialogue-group)
It’s this shit right here that gets me so fucking mad at people who trivialise biphobia and monosexism by saying shit like “oh the worst you get is people thinking you are confused and greedy”, as if those stereotypes has no real consequences for bisexuals.
He is telling a bisexual woman that he doesn’t treat gay people the same way and I’m pretty sure that he doesn’t treat straight folks that way, he is singling out bisexuals because he thinks there is something wrong with us identifying that way, because we are, in his mind, confused.
It makes me sick to think that he is making clients doubt and dissect their own sexuality, blamed their bisexuality for their mental state, told them that bisexuality was a symptom or something to take centre-stage over everything because he thinks it’s not as natural or mentally healthy as monosexuality.
This attitude towards bisexuality is endemic to the medical health industry, especially mental health, which is already a problematic field given how much stigma is attached to mental illness.
So many times I hear bisexuals express their anger at being told by qualified therapists and doctors that they were confused, greedy and/or unstable and therefore had to jump through pointless hoops, longer and more invasive therapy sessions, or even worse, threatened with having treatment withheld or taken in a direction completely different from monosexuals because “it’s all in their heads” or “just doing it for attention”. All because the person in charge believes all the shitty stereotypes that seem ever so trivial and not worth combating to biphobia-deniers.
And people wonder why bisexuals don’t come out to health professionals? They wonder why we don’t come out at all? They wonder why bisexuals have a rate of suicide and poor health way above straight and gay people?
Don’t ever tell me that is trivial. Bisexuals die because of these stereotypes, they are killed by these so-called mental health professionals telling them that they need to be cured by denying themselves and are erased after death by monosexism. Fuck everyone who doesn’t think that’s worth caring about.
This is why it is so important to make sure that your therapist is actually bi-competant, or at least bi-friendly. If you cannot find a therapist near you on the Bisexuality-Aware Professional’s Directory, the questions on the list are good ones to ask any therapist who claims to be able to treat bisexuals. (via a-little-bi-furious)
No writer, showrunner or producer ever (via hatteress)
I think the worst, most damaging part about this is the fact that after awhile you start to think it, too.
"Oh, right, yea I suppose it would be weird to have them be queer now”
"where would that fall in the canon at this point”
And it’s not until this kind of comparison is made that you really start to see the stupidity of it. It’s appalling, and especially so when you look at movies and shows with queer characters and see them automatically lumped beneath the label “gay and lesbian films” as though any media with more than a single queer character must be about queer characters.
My sexuality isn’t a genre, I don’t introduce myself to people as queer, it’s just a facet of my identity but it’s not the defining feature.
As though you can’t have a character be queer unless you’ve established their queerness from day one, like sexuality isn’t something that is messy and ever evolving.
Because, it would be unrealistic to suddenly have this character come to terms with their sexuality, embrace it, or leap into it like it’s not a big deal. Because it would be unrealistic, we’re too busy with the plot of werewolves and kanimas, of angels and demons.
It would be unrealistic.
No. At least own up to it. Own up to the fact that you don’t want to make your characters queer because it would be too complicated. It would be too difficult for you to write it because you’re too far up your own heteronormative sexist ass that you couldn’t even begin to crawl your way out.
Own up to the fact that you don’t know how to write it, and that most of all you aren’t willing.
You aren’t willing to look your audience in the face and say, “we need you for the ratings, but we don’t value you enough to validate your worth.”
Because that’s what it boils down to.
And I for one, am done.
I sent one that said something along the lines of, “I just want to see a bisexual represented by someone who isn’t ‘a confused teenage girl’ #representationmatters” because if I get told I’m going through a phase on TV one more time…..
I know, right? It gets even worse when people who are supposedly there to support you deliberately write biphobic rhetoric into their shows (cough RYAN MURPHY cough) or when “bisexual” is translated in tv-dom as “deviant slut.”