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dictator-princess:

tsumaranai-ao:

'I dont think he's 100% gay, but I also dont think he's 100% straight'

is it that fucking hard to say the B word

I know what you are

Say it. Out loud.

Bisexual

(via alyssabethancourt)

bonnienoise:

sometimes i just get so pissed off at the idea that there are people out there that think that I, as a bisexual person, cannot find trans* bodies attractive. as if somehow by being bisexual i must be ascribing to heternormative ideas of what makes a man and what makes a woman, because clearly i am ascribing to it in every other way because apparently only cis people can be bisexual there are no trans bisexuals anywhere ever nope nope

(via bisexualzuko)

underhuntressmoon:

sapphicscience:

here’s to polyamorous bisexuals, to promiscuous bisexuals, to bisexuals who really are confused about their sexuality.

i’ve fit into all three of these categories at one point or another and we get thrown under the bus a lot. here’s to everyone who fits the stereotype.

Hi yes thank you I needed to see this

(via sonneillonv)

emmablackery:

phantaray:

nolimirabilisesseoblivisci:

funimationentertainment:

Glee’s attitude towards bisexuality summed up in 60 seconds

here it is in all its glory

the music tho

seriously, fuck biphobia, and fuck any form of mainstream media that promotes it.

This is what I’ve been saying SINCE SEASON TWO. Ryan Murphy is a biphobe, he has always been a biphobe, he only cares about his precious white gay cis male characters and everyone else can be a stereotype. Fuck him. 

(via blueridgebiotch)

bisexuwhales:

[floats into your window] hi i’m the bi fairy here to reaffirm your sexuality

(via bi-privilege)

Asker Anonymous Asks:
"You can't combine the oppressed with their oppressors." What does that even mean? Saying both gay and straight people, cis and trans people, can be monosexist, is no different than saying "people of color and white people can ableist". Yes, people of color are discriminated against, but that doesn't mean they can't (insert discrimination here). I'm a woman, but doesn't mean I can't be racist. I'm a lesbian but I can still be monosexist.
bemusedlybespectacled bemusedlybespectacled Said:

Exactly, thank you!

Asker Anonymous Asks:
holy SHIT. All white people have privilege for being white. All neurotypicals have privilege for being neurotypical. All straight people have privilege for being straight. DO NOT. TELL ME FOR A GODDAMN SECOND. THAT ALL "MONOSEXUALS" HAVE PRIVILEGE FOR BEING "MONOSEXUAL." A trans lesbian isn't fucking privileged for being monosexual. Lesbians aren't fucking privileged for being monosexual. You don't combine the oppressed with their oppressors. Shut the fuck up, transmisogynist.
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bi-privilege:

someone added a tag to my post on straight people talking about characters that might possibly be bi to say “as if straight people would actually call a character gay instead of straight” … friend, let me introduce you to the straight fan base of supernatural.

it’s one of the three pillars of every slash fandom

the other two are “some kind of seme/uke dynamic” and “that’s not how buttholes work”

rhube:

(and the dumb questions they get asked)

Anna Paquin:

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Larry King: Are you a non-practicing bisexual? 
Anna Paquin: Well I am married to my husband and we are happily, monogamously married.
Larry: But you were bisexual.
Anna: Well, I don’t think it’s a past-tense thing.
Larry: No?
Anna: No. Are you still straight if you are with somebody, and - if you were to break up with them or if they were to die, it doesn’t prevent your sexuality from existing. It doesn’t really work like that.

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Alan Cumming:

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Angelina Jolie:

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Marlon Brando:

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Drew Barrymore:

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Greta Garbo:

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Alec Gunness:

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Gillian Anderson:

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(via nothingeverlost)

star-lords-pelvic-sorcery:

Here we have nine characters from seven different ‘verses that all have one thing in common: they would likely be canon bisexual if not for heteronormativity and bi erasure.

Friendly reminder that Blaine’s case is deliberate biphobia on the part of Ryan “Blaine is NOT bi. He is gay, and will always be gay. I think it’s very important to young kids that they know this character is one of them” Murphy. The same Ryan Murphy who wrote an entire episode questioning whether or not bisexuality exists, including the line “Bisexual is a term that gay guys in high school use when they wanna hold hands with girls and feel like a normal person for a change" which later turns out to be correct.

(via lithrostilesmclinski)

bialogue-group:

HRC Online LGBT Youth Poll

Bisexual youth face skepticism and harassment, are significantly less happy than non-LGBT peers, and face more challenges than gay and lesbian teens, says a new study from the Human Rights Campaign.

HRC released the Supporting and Caring for Our Bisexual Youth report today,  the 15th annual Celebrate Bisexuality Day, in partnership with BiNet USA, Bi Resource Center, and the Bisexual Organizing Project.

The findings indicated that bisexual youth face many of the same issues as lesbians and gays regarding coming out, bullying, harassment, and family acceptance. But young bisexuals encounter additional challenges specific to their orientation. In coming out, many were told bisexuality doesn’t exist, that it is just a phase, and that they are indecisive. They met with other misconceptions about bisexuality as well. And they must deal with biphobia not only from straight people, but within the LGBT population

“It hurts deeply when young people are told they are not legitimate, and, unfortunately, that is what many bisexual youth are hearing from their family and friends,” said Ellen Kahn, director of the HRC Foundation’s Children, Youth, and Families Program, in a press release announcing the report. “This report will help bust the myths and misunderstandings associated with bisexuality, and create a space for young people to be more open, and to find the support they deserve.”

(via bisexual-community)

candiedbinicorn:

The ideas in this pamphlet were generated during a discussion at a UC Davis Bi Visibility Project group meeting and were compiled Winter quarter, 2009.

Nonmonosexual / bisexual individuals self-identify in a variety of different ways – please keep in mind that though this pamphlet gives suggestions about how to be a good ally, one of the most important aspects of being an ally is respecting individual’s decisions about self-identification. There are hundreds of ways to be a good ally – Please use these suggestions as a starting point, and seek additional resources!

In this pamphlet the terms “bisexual” and “nonmonosexual” will be used interchangeably to describe individuals who identify with nonmonosexual orientations (attracted to more than one gender), encompassing pan-, omni-, ambi-, bi-, and nonmonosexual identities. Respect personal choices about self-identification and use specific terms on an individual basis.

Monosexism: A belief that monosexuality (either exclusive heterosexuality and/or being lesbian or gay) is superior to a bisexual or pansexual orientation.

Try...

  • Acknowledging that a person who is bisexual is always bisexual regardless of their current or past partner(s) or sexual experience(s).
  • Using the terms “monosexual” and “monosexism.” Educating yourself through articles, books, websites or other resources if you have questions.
  • Questioning the negativity associated with bisexual stereotypes. Example: The stereotype that “all bi people are oversexed.” This reinforces societal assumptions about the nature of “good” or “appropriate” sexual practice or identity. Acknowledge the different ways women, people of color, disabled people, queer people and all intersections thereof, are eroticized or criticized for being sexual.
  • Checking in with someone about what term(s) they prefer – different people prefer different terms for different reasons, respect each term.
  • Being inclusive of bi people of color (BiPOC). This means not assuming that all bi people are white and acknowledging that racism exists within the bi community. BiPOC are often further invisibilized by the assumption that they do not exist.
  • Recognizing that coming out can be different for people who are nonmonosexual than it is for lesbian/gay people. Because nonmonosexuality is invisibilized/ delegitimized, nonmonosexual people usually have to come out over and over. Often, after we come out, we also have to convince someone that we are nonmonosexual, and not “confused.”
  • Recognizing that sometimes it’s appropriate to group people who are nonmonosexual with people who are lesbian and gay, and sometimes it’s not. Example: Healthcare & economic studies on LGB people that separated bisexual from lesbian/gay have found that there are significant disparities.
  • Remembering that no one person represents a community; no two people are the same.
  • Recognizing that privilege is complicated. Bisexuals don’t have straight privilege because we are not straight. Some will never have a “heterosexual looking” relationship. However, many have “passing” privilege in different forms. This might be gender conforming privilege, which people of any sexuality can have. This might also mean being assumed to be straight when with a partner of a different gender. (Note: This often does not feel like privilege but rather an erasure of bi identity). Acknowledgement of one’s own privilege (whichever forms it takes) is always important.

  • Taking a minute before asking questions and looking into the assumptions behind them

  • Recognizing the way that specific relationships function is entirely independent of sexual orientation. Be positive about all relationships –monogamous, polyamorous, or anything else.
  • Remembering that when a person who is bi says something biphobic it takes on a different meaning than when said by someone who does not identify as bi. Witnessing biphobia in any form does not give permission to be further biphobic. Biphobia is harmful to bi people in any form.
  • Remembering that no one individual is more or less nonmonosexual; no one is “truly” or “untruly” nonmonosexual; someone is nonmonosexual if they say they are.
  • Remembering that just because a person who is nonmonosexual reinforces a nonmonosexual stereotype does not mean the stereotype is true.
  • Accepting you might never fully understand someone else’s sexuality, and that it’s okay not to.

Don’t assume…

… You can only be a bi ally I you know people who are bi - Going to events, talking in gender-neutral terms, or being inclusive of bi sexualities speaks volumes to people of any sexual orientation.

… All people who are nonmonosexual are sexual or have had “all” kinds of sex. Not all have had experiences with different genders; no one person will necessarily have had experiences of any specific kind.

… All people who are nonmonosexual are gender conforming. Gender and sexuality are separate and do not depend on each other.

…Someone’s sexual orientation is based on the gender of their partner(s).

… All people who are bi are heteronormative or homonormative.

… How a person who is nonmonosexual defines “virginity.”

… All people who are nonmonosexual do/do not prefer one gender over others. Neither of these is more or less nonmonosexual.

… That people who are bisexual are attracted to everyone. Everyone has different criteria by which they judge whether or not someone is compatible.

… What kinds of sex people are having or how they relate to different kinds of sex. These assumptions might be based on perceptions of gender roles, or assumptions of what someone’s genitalia looks like and how it functions.

Be Careful Not To…

… Attempt to quantify “how bisexual” someone “really” is. This is related to the stereotype that people who are bi are lying or confused and sometimes satisfies a craving to categorize bi people as either “more gay” or “more straight”. People often try to do this by asking someone about their romantic or sexual behaviors. People deserve to have their privacy while having their identities respected.

… Use “Gay” as an umbrella term. Doing so invisibilizes nonmonosexuality. Example: Saying things like, “gay rights”, “gay marriage”, or “gay sex”, implies that bi people are only included when “acting gay”, i.e. when they are engaged in same- sex relationships/sexual activity. Instead, use the terms “same-gender relationship”/“other-gender relationship” instead of “gay relationship”/“straight relationship”. Relationships don’t have sexual orientations.

… Seem infatuated, fascinated or exoticizing of nonmonosexuality.

… Invisibilize bisexuality. Example: “All people are bisexual.” This dismisses people’s identities as if they are a negligible part of “human nature”.

… Ask invasive questions, or interrogate people about their sexuality. This may make the person feel like a scientific study and contribute to a sense of invalidation or isolation.

… Suggest that people who identify as bisexual inherently uphold a gender binary of woman/man. Different people think differently about their identities. Many people identify as bisexual as an act of reclaiming the word from its negative contexts. Many describe being bisexual to mean “attraction regardless of gender”, or “attraction to any gender”. Identifying with the word bisexual can also serve to connect with history and literature.

<3 Feisty Bis

(via projectqueer)

terminal-bisexuality:

60% of straight women say they would never date a bisexual. 50% of straight men say they would never date a bisexual. 40% of gay men and lesbians say they would never date a bisexual. Bisexuals are obviously just greedy. They’re just bisexual so they can sleep with fewer people and lose opportunities for relationships based solely on their sexual orientation. 

(via jethroq)

wsswatson:

a bi/pan person marrying someone does not indicate a preference for that gender, it indicates a preference for that PERSON

(via gallifreyandeathdealer)

motherfuckingshakespeare:

anne-ching:

motherfuckingshakespeare:

buzzlightweights:

if my professor skates over the fact that Sonnet 20 is literally Shakespeare saying “yo I’m super gay” I’m gonna be pissed

yeah I’m angry about bi erasure too. 

As a straight woman I feel the same way about erasure of GLBT people. Not intending to be offensive or anything so apologies if this is offensive but how do we know that Shakespeare’s sonnets in general are autobiographical? AFAIK that sonnet was dedicated to a man, but the feelings in the text may not be Shakespeare the poet’s but those of a persona, which doesn’t disprove or prove that he wasn’t or was gay. But then again, people in general don’t know all that much about Shakespeare’s personal feelings so anything people say is guesswork

Why would Shakespeare have invented a gay poetry writing persona when m/m activity was literally punishable by death?

I’m gonna go off on some wild guesswork here, but it’s almost like we know he was married to a woman and they had three children, but he addressed 126 stunningly lovely sonnets to men. It’s almost like we know the rest of his poems were addressed to a lady. It’s almost like Shakespeare’s works lend themselves to queer readings because he was queer and enjoyed playing with and subverting traditional notions of gender/ courtly love/ poetry. This is pretty radical, but maybe writers write about things because they want to express their lived experiences and desires. 

In conclusion, LOVE THAT BISEXUAL. 

(via jcatgrl)