sex is complicated and people are weird

racismschool:

That is super fantastic, wonderful and dandy.

Really it is but that’s all you get. You know why? 

No one should get rewarded for simply doing what is right.

I don’t like you more because I know you are one of the good ones. I expect you to be one of the good ones anyway. Doing what is right is not some sort of pass, authority or even something to be celebrated. You are doing the right thing. Doing the right thing should not be abnormal. Doing the right thing should not be something to stand up and clap for. When was the last time someone gave you a standing ovation or even a pat on the back for not running over a child with your car? 

If anything, being treated as an oddity should make you weep. It should make you step back and say “How horrible is the world we live in that I am getting praise for not being a racist?”

If you are looking for praise, your “Ally Status” is fake.

I appreciate you. Truly I do but that’s all I have for you. I am glad that you exist. I am glad that you are on the side of right but that is all I have for you. That is all I can give. I don’t have any actual gratitude if that is what you need. I just can’t help you with that. I can’t be grateful for/to you. I can only be happy that you exist as I am happy all good people exist.

Regarding allies, is there a midway point? Not looking for praise, but wanting to not be hated? Because I feel like allies of any group get hated on by the group, and that’s not right either. It’s not asking for anything special, or even to be treated better out of gratitude or anything like that. Just… not being hated on because we’re people too and we can’t help that we’re not part of your marginalized group anymore than you can help being in yours?

(via fuckyeahsexeducation)